The saying “Life is short” is nothing far from the truth. There are so many mistakes people make in their life that may eventually destroy so many things simply because “the society things it is cool”.
However, as a youth, here are some mistakes you should not make in life and if you are making some of them, try to correct them before it is too late.
Having a job you hate
You must enjoy your work where you can use your creativity and passion. You don’t work only for salary because a career is a very important part of your life. You must be happy with your job. Otherwise, it is not good for you, not for your employer either. It is also not good for your family because you cannot come home late every night and be cranky at your kids.
Marrying a person whom you are not attracted to
Despite tradition, religion and culture playing a very huge role in the kind of person you marry in Nigeria, you must never marry someone you don’t love. Also, never marry out of pity. When you marry, you and your partner take an oath to live together lifelong. You can’t spoil your life by marrying a person whom you are not attracted to. Marriage means commitment, love romance, and sometimes s*x. It is a pity to be stuck in life with someone whom you are not attracted.
You smoke and you give an excuse that you are depressed and lonely. You argue smoking helps your depression. If you don’t feel good, can’t do any good. A cigarette does not contain any element that helps your mood. A cigarette only damages your lung. There is no scientific research that shows how cigarettes help your mood. Smoking because you are depressed is not a terrible excuse for damaging your life. You know what is worst? Smoking because you want to feel among.
Not only will this give you unrest, it will also make you have a depressed life. To try to be someone that you are not, does not serve any purpose. You can have temporary benefits from faking yourself but ultimately you will be exposed. You cannot run from yourself. You have to have the courage to be real you
Sacrificing yourself for others
Sacrificing sounds like a great word. You have got only one life. This life is yours. Others have their lives, too. You have to live your life as pleasant as you can. If you have surplus then you do things for others. If you are not doing good, you can’t do any good for others. An unwise way of sacrificing would not do any good for you, not for others either.
You must not burden yourself by working hard. You have to work smart and achieve a better result than working hard. Remember, quality is more important than quantity. You need creative energy to create quality. Hard work undermines the quality of life. A lot of people work for 9 hours everyday making money for people who only work when they feel like.
Waiting for a grand event
What a lot of people don’t know is that grand events seldom come.; for some people, it never comes. You can’t wait for a big event. Every moment is a part of your life. You have to enjoy your life moments. Don’t count on a grand event and lose your present moments
Living in the past
A rather popular mistake most people make these days is dwelling on the past. You are in the present and you have to go forward. You cant just wonder what you did or what you could have done in the past. Don’t spoil your present happiness by wondering what you could buy Facebook stocks 5 years ago. Think about the present and the future
Maybe you are intelligent or maybe not, maybe you are good at something or maybe not, maybe you are attractive or maybe not. Those are not your concerns. You have to accept who you are. You are unique. You are not like others. You have to find the way that fits you. It will not help you to follow others who have succeeded in their ways.
Setting a life goal
You should not set a long term big goal in your life. You will be disappointed when you don’t reach your goal. It is better to set short term easily achievable goals. When you reach a small goal, then you can target another. It may sound like a lie but it is the truth nobody wants to admit.
Being stuck in comparison trap
Your friends are posting colorful photos with their iPhone 11 PRO max and parties. Those mean nothing. They are showing only a part of their lives and hiding dark part. Maybe you are doing better than them but unnecessary becoming frustrated. You don’t need to compare yourself with others. Just create your own timeline and work on it.
You don’t need a long list lost of Facebook friends. You need friends whom you can count on. Keep yourself away from friends who often change their colors. They are not worthy. You better find a few or just one real friend.
Thinking too much
To think about solving a problem is good but excessive thinking doesn’t help. Too much thinking creates anxiety. Be objective and confident instead.
Being very serious
Seriousness makes you sad. You have to have the ability to make jokes and take jokes with pleasure. You have to laugh high. Be jolly and cheerful. This life is too short to spend a second being too serious.
Establishing a relationship is not so easy. It takes a lot of time and effort to find the right one. You can take time before you enter a relationship. When you are in a relationship, you must try hard to keep it. Never break up unless it is a must.
Butt, boobs operation and penis enlargement
This kind of operation is dangerous. It can result in death. Big butts don’t make you look good neither do bigger boobs. They only look good in a dress and not when they are naked. The penis cannot be enlarged. There is no need for enlargement. To try to enlarge it can result in impotence.
If you talk behind other people, they will also talk behind your back. Backbiting is a very bad and harmful habit. It creates animosity and hostility among friends.